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Sherlock is AWESOME

I know I haven't posted in light years (internet time), but whenever the urge hits me, I'm never at the computer. By the time I get home and get my hands on the laptop, I've forgotten that I wanted to post something. And really? My life is not that interesting.

However, I have realised that I DO have something to say.

I'm coming out, in fact.

Some of you know about the discussion that has popped up about the new version of Sherlock Homes (BBC Sherlock), where they have gone with making Sherlock asexual. It made me look up what asexuality meant, which is someone who is not sexually attracted to other people.

There are different levels of asexuality which I will go into another time, but the important thing is that I realised that the definition applied to ME.

It was not really as obvious as you might think it should have been. Oh come on! Sex is brought up in everything (ads, anyone?) and I believed that I was supposed to want people that way. I never even read the word 'asexual' until last year. I really started thinking that there was something wrong with me, which wasn't fun.

My sister used to tease me about being fussy. Actually, no I wasn't. I just didn't want them to get any further than a hug or a kiss (one guy told me that I'm a very good kisser actually, ha ha!). I think a part of me was sabotaging any potential relationship because I didn't want to end up in the bedroom. Not that I was dating very often. Hardly ever, in fact.

Now that I'm aware of my own motivations, any relationships I have from this point on will be a lot more honest. Whether he will take it well is another story, but there are asexuals in relationships with sexual people who make it work. Or I could meet another asexual, which would be awesome.

I feel like my journey has hardly begun.

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kate_sherwood
Nov. 6th, 2010 01:00 pm (UTC)
Good for you - self-knowledge and understanding and acceptance! Yay!

It's funny, somehow, when you stumble across a word or a concept that makes you understand yourself better. And it gives you a sense of belonging, I guess - you're not the only one who feels this way!

(Side note: I'm listening to Tim Minchin right now, so this is like my morning of Australian content! Interesting.)
leodragon1
Nov. 6th, 2010 01:19 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the kind words!

It's true, your life can change so quickly from such small things. I'm glad that it's a happy change for me. It was a bit like when I found out that I'm not the only one who likes reading slash. Remember when you did? That was a happy day, I bet!

And if you're wondering why I don't mind reading about sex, it's 'cos I'm not doing it. Plus, two guys means that I can't accidently imagine that I'm the girl. (Unless one of the guys acts like a girl. Ugh!)

Also, Tim Minchin is awesome. I love his guyliner and how smart he is.
flawedamythyst
Nov. 7th, 2010 01:26 am (UTC)
And this is just one of the many reasons that fandom is awesome. And also Sherlock.

*hugs*
leodragon1
Nov. 7th, 2010 02:49 am (UTC)
Aw, thanks *smish*

I have never had so much fun or learned so much before the internet existed *g*
nachekana
Nov. 7th, 2010 10:59 am (UTC)
That's great that you realized that about you! It should make things easier or at least smoother for you from now on. :)
leodragon1
Nov. 7th, 2010 12:15 pm (UTC)
Oh yes, absolutely. Thanks!

Though, it's not like I'm rushing out to join a dating club or go looking online. Nothing has really changed, but at the same time it has. I'm pretty much taking it in stride. It's funny, usually the stories where a guy realises he's gay (for example) always has him meeting someone afterwards. Where's my man? *g*
nachekana
Nov. 8th, 2010 05:07 am (UTC)
LOL Just wait a couple of weeks, who knows, maybe it will be like a a story!
ryu_avalon
Dec. 31st, 2010 03:32 am (UTC)
Strange thing happened to me, I stumbled upon asexuality and then I came across BBC Sherlock.
It has been a strange year for me. The response I had when I learned about asexuality is "That is so me! How did I not know this before?"
My sister used to tease me about being fussy. Actually, no I wasn't. I just didn't want them to get any further than a hug or a kiss (one guy told me that I'm a very good kisser actually, ha ha!). I think a part of me was sabotaging any potential relationship because I didn't want to end up in the bedroom. Not that I was dating very often. Hardly ever, in fact.
And that is exactly It.
I'm very happy you've gotten an identity, it is freeing isn't it?
I'm not sure if you would want to read it at all, but I have my own post about < ahref="http://ryu-avalon.livejournal.com/304308.html">coming out</a>.
I hope your journey from here on out treats you well.
leodragon1
Jan. 1st, 2011 07:18 am (UTC)
Thanks for the support! And it's great to meet another asexual. Hello!

I love BBC Sherlock, because it's opened up the discussion of asexuality and making more people aware of it, for asexuals who didn't even realise they were in closet and the sexuals understanding that it's NOT ALL ABOUT SEX, GOD! And that if you're not interested, IT'S OKAY.

I'd love to read your post, in fact I'll go there now.


Edited at 2011-01-01 07:19 am (UTC)
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